It’s remarkable how much our internal language shapes our external experience. One of the most powerful mindset shifts I’ve made over the years is learning to reframe “I have to” into “I get to.”
When we say “I have to go do something,” we’ve already placed a judgment on the task. Whether it’s going to a meeting, running errands, or even helping a loved one, the phrase implies burden. It suggests the activity is unpleasant or without benefit.
But when we instead say “I get to go do this,” something changes. The same task, viewed through a lens of opportunity, suddenly feels lighter. More purposeful. We open ourselves to curiosity. We expand our awareness of what the experience might hold for us, not just as a responsibility, but as a chance to grow, contribute, or connect.
This subtle language change unlocks something deeper: a shift from a state of scarcity to one of abundance. Saying “I get to” places us in a mindset of receiving, rather than resisting. We are no longer going through the motions; we are embracing the moment.
It’s not about ignoring the hard parts of life. It’s about approaching them with intention. When we practice reframing “I have to” into “I get to,” we start to see the world—and our place in it—with a wider perspective and greater appreciation.
So this week, try it. Every time you catch yourself saying “I have to,” pause. Reframe it. Choose “I get to”—and see how your mindset shifts.
June 16, 2025 - Mindful Monday presented by Chris Masiello, Chairman of The Masiello Group
